How do you find a qualified professional with the experience, training and wisdom to help you with the challenges of addressing your same-sex attractions in affirming ways that align with your faith, values, morals and life goals?
Disclaimer & Caution
For informational purposes, and to assist sincere adults in furthering their personal work, we provide information below on counselors who some in our community have found helpful in addressing their distress over same-sex attractions, or helping people affected by a loved one’s SSA. They may deal regularly with such issues as anxiety, addiction, depression, trauma and self-esteem.
Additionally, we include information on life coaches who some in our community have found helpful with reframing and managing day to day issues, setting and achieving goals, decision-making skills, relationship skills and relaxation tools.
Choosing a counselor or a life coach can be a very personal experience. It warrants getting as much information as you feel necessary to decide best what works for you.
Most of the individuals listed provide services remotely, over the phone or Internet, as well as in person — insofar as state legal and professional ethical requirements allow. Both lists are provided for your information only; neither list implies an endorsement or guarantee from Brothers on a Road Less Traveled of the services an individual on the list may provide or the outcomes one may expect.
Conversely, the presence of an individual on one of these lists does not indicate that individual’s direct or implied endorsement or guarantee of Brothers on a Road Less Traveled, its mission, programs or expected outcomes.
- What About Therapy for Same-Sex Attractions?
- Q&A: What Professionals Say About “Change Efforts”
- 10 Ethical Principles to Promote Health When Helping Those Distressed by Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity
- Therapists & Counselors (below)
- Life Coaches (below)
- Other Referral Networks & Resources (below)
Therapists & Counselors
Helen Bair, MAPC and SRT Facilitator
Unwanted attractions, addictions, compulsions and other internal conflicts can be caused by unresolved life experiences, creating a battle within. SRT is an alternative, subconscious tool, that can help you locate and remedy memories and emotions that cause unwanted symptoms. SRT can help you restore internal congruency and wholeness.
Click on www.findingthehealer.com and watch the videos to learn what is possible.Sessions available on web camera, the phone or in person if you live in the Phoenix, AZ area.
Shlomo-Zalman (Adam) Jessel, MA
Private practice based in Jerusalem, Israel
Tel: 972 546 720 336
Shlomo-Zalman (Adam) Jessel holds a BSc degree in Psychology and an MA in Clinical-Developmental psychology, and is fully trained in EMDR (Level II). A founding member of the Jerusalem Therapy Institute (http://jnti.net/), he works with individuals and families in Israel and abroad, often via telephone or Skype. He has published in medical and scientific journals on a wide array of subjects, and lectures to therapists and educators several times per year. He is part of Dr. Nicolosi’s supervision group, and in turn, trains other therapists in Israel and the United States.
Matt Miller, M.Ed., LPC-S
Private practice in Houston, Texas
Renewing Hope Counseling
Matt Miller is a Licensed Professional Counselor and clinical supervisor. He has been practicing since 1995 in various professional areas such as Public School Counselor, Public Mental Health Clinics, Psychiatric Hospitals, and Private Practice.
Matt’s practice is generalized, but he does give special attention to men with unwanted same-sex attraction, male victims of sexual abuse, and sexual addiction. Research indicates that the relationship between clinician and client is the most significant factor in treatment outcomes rather than technique, theoretical orientation, or mental health discipline. For this reason, Matt puts a great emphasis on the relationship and draws the diversity of his experiences in each individual case.
Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D.
Dr. Nicolosi passed away unexpectedly on March 8, 2017. His staff at the former Thomas Aquinas Psychological Clinic has posted the following:
“Are you still interested in psychotherapy? Please email our office for information. If you are over 18, you will still be able to find a qualified, affirming therapist who shares your worldview and supports your sense of who you were meant to be. You can email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
“We will also continue to make www.josephnicolosi.com available to anyone interested in understanding Dr. Nicolosi’s lifetime of work and thought. The articles he wrote on this website have timeless value. He is the originator of reparative therapy, and these articles, as well as the four books he wrote, will live on in the history of psychotherapy.” His books, including Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality are often used as a treatment model.
David H. Pickup, MA, LMFT
Private practice with offices in Dallas, TX and Los Angeles, CA
David holds a master’s degree in psychology and is completing doctoral studies in psychology at CalSouthern University. He is licensed in California and Texas as a Marriage and Family Therapist. David underwent an extensive internship and training with the creator of Reparative Therapy, Dr. Joseph Nicolosi at Thomas Aquinas Psychological Clinic. He now operates his own private practices in Encino, Calif. and Dallas, Texas.
His practices consist almost entirely of same-sex attracted men who seek orientation change. David is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists and the American Psychological Association, and he holds training courses in Reparative Therapy for licensed counselors and ministers. He often speaks about Reparative Therapy on news shows and for churches and men’s groups. David holds to the belief that authentic manhood and the fulfillment of same-sex emotional needs is a marvelous and healing experience.
Robert L. Vazzo, MMFT
Robert Vazzo received his master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Southern California and completed his clinical internship at the Thomas Aquinas Psychological Clinic in Encino, California, where he worked with leading sexual reorientation therapist
Dr. Joseph Nicolosi. He is an active member of The Alliance for Therapeutic Choice and Scientific Integrity and its NARTH Institute. His professional interests include working with men who feel deeply conflicted over unwanted same-sex attraction, transvestic fetishism, pornography, and pedophilia. Mr. Vazzo has lived and worked in France, Tunisia, Saudi Arabia, and Turkey and maintains an active interest in multicultural counseling.
Keith Vennum, MD
Psychiatric Services and Mental Health Counseling
Keith is a licensed physician and mental health counselor specializing in working with men who wish to reduce their unwanted same-sex attractions. He also counsels couples in mixed-orientation marriages and parents of gay-identified children. He received his Master’s degree from Liberty University and his doctorate from the University of Florida.
Dr. Vennum has received training through The Alliance for Therapeutic Choice and Scientific Integrity and its NARTH Institute and has participated in a Journey into Manhood weekend. He is a referral therapist for Focus on the Family and Restored Hope Network. He believes that experiencing authentic manhood and meeting same-sex emotional needs in healthy, affirming ways are worthy life goals for men. His own life experiences inform his empathy for clients and his counseling approach.
Life coaching is not therapy. A life coach does not “diagnose” or “treat.” Therapy is for those who are primarily seeking relief from emotional or psychological pain. Therapy typically focuses on healing the wounds of the past.
Coaching is different. Life coaching focuses primarily on the present and the future. Coaching is for those who are emotionally and mentally grounded but working to grow, change, and experience greater success and happiness in life, work and relationships.
To learn more about the profession of Life Coaching, visit www.coachfederation.org.
Rich Wyler, Certified Life Coach
Higher Path Life Coaching
and Founder & Director, Brothers on a Road Less Traveled
email@example.com (for individual life coaching)
firstname.lastname@example.org (for questions related to Brothers on a Road Less Traveled or Journey Into Manhood)
Rich is a certified life coach with extensive real-world experience in helping men overcome pornography addictions and address internal conflicts over same-sex attractions, starting with his own healing journey in the 1990s. In 2000, he founded People Can Change (now Brothers on a Road Less Traveled) and in 2002 created its powerful Journey Into Manhood experiential personal-growth weekend. He later created the Journey Continues follow-up weekend and co-created A Wife’s Healing Journey, a weekend supporting women who are married to SSA men.
Building on his skills and experience in facilitating dramatic personal breakthroughs, Rich established Higher Path Life Coaching and began coaching professionally in 2005. Rich has years of experience in 12-Step recovery work and serving in a senior facilitator role with various organizations that focus on deep inner-healing and personal-growth work: Adventure in Manhood, Noble Man, and weekends by Healing for the Soul, among others.
Rich received his life-coaching certification through the Coach Training Alliance in 2007. He holds a bachelor’s degree in communications (public relations) from Brigham Young University. He is the father of a young-adult daughter and son. Widowed in 2006, he remarried in 2010 and lives with his wife in Virginia, USA. You can read about his own experience in therapy at “A Change of Heart.”
Bruce R. Gold, Certified Professional Coach
Private practice in Collegeville, Pennsylvania
Collegeville Healing Center
Bruce has trained in modalities including Gestalt Therapy, Shadow Awareness, Imago Therapy, Co-Dependency, Touch Therapy, Voice Dialogue and Shiatsu bodywork. Bruce has extensive experience leading short and long-term men’s and couple’s groups since 1993. He offers counseling on an individual basis for men, women and families addressing addiction, co-dependency, anger, shame and loss, sexual abuse and gender issues. Additionally, Bruce works with clients dealing with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD.
Bruce has been an active participant in various 12 step recovery groups since 1984. Bruce has been a certified co-leader in an intense men’s initiation weekend that invites men to forge a deep conscious connection between head and heart, and that supports men in developing lives of integrity, accountability, and connection to feeling. He has facilitated or led workshops throughout the Northern Hemisphere and Europe. Currently, Bruce maintains a full-time coaching practice in Collegeville, Pennsylvania, where he works with individuals, couples, families and groups. Bruce specializes in personal empowerment by teaching and modeling strength through vulnerability, creating safe and passionate moments of healing.
Rajyo Markman is a spiritual teacher, mystic and a gifted healer, who has been working with people in the field of transformation for over 20 years. Rajyo is a Somatic Experiencing practitioner, a certified Massage Therapist, Aquatic bodywork practitioner, qualified Yoga Teacher, and certified Master Results coach. In her private sessions, workshops, trainings and retreats she combines trauma healing, self-inquiry, mindfulness practice, compassionate counseling, and breath and body awareness to bring an awareness of the perfection of our essential wholeness.
Rephoel Wolf, Certified Life Coach
Rephoel Wolf has been passionately serving the SSA community since his discovery of a Journey into Manhood workshop in 2012. He has been active in follow-up support groups in Israel and has since served as a volunteer staff man on Journey Into Manhood workshops to further support men with same-sex attraction.
Now living in Chicago, Illinois, Rephoel got his Life Coaching Certification from the ICF Certified Holistic MBA Life and Health Coach Institute. He has coached clients through day-to-day issues, breaking free of self-destructing habits and thoughts, better their relationships, and better their relationship with themselves, their bodies, and who they really are. Rephoel holds the vision that all his clients can be as great as they dream to be with the right system and support and that nothing, especially same-sex attraction, should be holding a person back from living his life to its fullest.
Other Referral Networks and Resources
- Find a same-sex attraction specialist through the Alliance for Therapeutic Choice & Scientific Integrity.
- Find a Christian counselor or same-sex attraction support group or ministry through these umbrella ministries, which are the primary successors to the former Exodus International:
- Find a Catholic counselor through CatholicTherapists.com
- Find a Christian counselor through:
- The American Association of Christian Counselors
- The Association of Biblical Counselors
- Christian Counselors Directory
- Focus on the Family
- Find a Mormon counselor through the Association of Mormon Counselors and Psychotherapists
- Read about the Reconciliation and Growth Project and its publications: