Learn more about Brothers on a Road Less Traveled (formerly known as People Can Change), our Journey Into Manhood program, our community and our respective journeys on this road less traveled.
Brothers on a Road Less Traveled
In October 2016, seven Journey Into Manhood brothers reunited for a weekend of adventure and connection. In this video series, they share how their lives have changed in the years since their respective Journey Into Manhood experiences.
Profiles: Our Journeys With Brothers Road
Blake’s Journey: “Best Decision of My Life”
Before beginning his journey with Journey Into Manhood, Blake says “every inch of my body craved male sexual contact.” But now: “I love men, but I don’t want to have sex with them.” Beginning his journey with Brothers Road was “probably the best decision of my life, other than marrying my wife.”
Julio’s Journey: “Best of Both Worlds”
Earlier in life, Julio dated men, and he says “I thought I had found love.” In this journey, he discovered a broader, more authentic world of love. “I love my wife. I can have a wife and family, which was my dream, while being able to hang out with guys, having a fun time, hugging them, telling them I love them. I allow myself to express my true feelings towards men without having a conflict with my marriage. I can have the best of both worlds.”
El Camino de Julio: “Lo Mejor de Ambos Mundos”
Antes de formar parte de la comunidad Camino Hermanos, la relación de Julio con otros hombres era más sexual, más distante, y causaba conflictos internos: “No podía relacionarme con otros hombres. Pero desde Camino Hermanos, puedo comunicarme mejor, tener conexiones significativas, y saber que soy como cualquier otro hombre“. Mientras que todavía siente atracciones hacia los hombres, Julio los ama de manera diferente hoy en dia: como hermanos e iguales. Y eso trae paz en vez de sufrimiento. Por otra parte, él ve a su esposa como su complemento y ella le ayuda a sacar lo mejor de él como hombre. Para Julio, eso es lo mejor de ambos mundos.
Kevin’s Journey: “Who I Really Am”
Kevin was in crisis in his 20s, when it felt like “torture to be me.” He considered the Journey Into Manhood weekend to be his last chance. “It’s really a weekend of healing. It was less about same-sex attraction and more about being made whole.” While before, his SSA felt “almost overwhelming all the time,” it became instead “incredibly manageable.” Even more important: “I was able to touch grace for the first time. I felt loved by God for the first time.”
Philip’s Journey: “Empowered to Direct My Own Life”
What most changed for Philip after joining the Brothers Road community was “being able to take a lot more control of who I wanted to be and where I wanted to direct my life.” He was also able to be in a relationship with a young lady for the first time. “It was very fulfilling, much more so than I ever thought possible before Brothers Road.” He now hopes to find happiness married to a woman some day.
Stephen’s Journey: “Living Authentically”
Stephen originally came out to his family more than 20 years ago, but with few resources, he mostly repressed and stuffed his feelings and languished in shame. Until he found Brothers Road and its Journey Into Manhood weekend. “I arrived very afraid, very skeptical, but by the end of that first night I knew I was in exactly the right place. I realized the weekend was not about shame but about breaking free of it.” He also found his work was “to live authentically and embrace all my desires and feelings as a part of me. For me, it was not focused on changing my desires as much as living authentically as a man.”
Stephen’s Journey: “Power in Connection”
“JiM brought me freedom. I’m now able to connect with God in a different way. Grace is now in my life instead of faith-based performance. My attractions to men have diminished; they’ve not gone away but they have diminished. I have a wife who is extremely supportive and is the love of my life.” Stephen says “it’s exciting to be in Brothers Road because of the connections I have all over the globe. If I’m in a crisis or need help, I can call for support. There’s power in connection, and that connection is very strong in Brothers Road.”
About Journey Into Manhood
The Journey Into Manhood Experiential Weekend
Journey Into Manhood is our peer-led, experiential weekend of self-discovery, brotherhood, personal-growth and inner-healing work.
What Really Happens at Journey Into Manhood?
This video slideshow answers your questions about who we are, who attends Journey Into Manhood, what our core teachings are, what really happens there, and more.
ABC Nightline Visits Journey Into Manhood
We invited the ABC Nightline news show to attend a Journey Into Manhood reunion event to experience our community and program for themselves.
Below are answers to key questions from men in our community who have experienced our programs first-hand. Learn how our programs have impacted their lives in surprising and fulfilling ways.
How has Journey Into Manhood affected your life?
Seventeen past participants in the Journey Into Manhood program share their candid responses. (11:25 minutes)
What does “change” mean for you?
Sixteen Journey Into Manhood “alumni” share their personal experience with their efforts to change their lives for the better. (13:25 minutes)
How has your involvement with this community over the years affected you?
Fifteen men share how their lives have been impacted by their participation in our community. (6:14 minutes)
Have you ever experienced anything shaming or coercive?
Nine men who have participated in Journey Into Manhood and other Brothers Road programs give their candid responses. (6:26 minutes)
What role has your faith played in your journey?
Ten men who are Catholic, Protestant, Mormon and Jewish share how their faith has been strengthened through this journey and in their work with Brothers on a Road Less Traveled. (6:37 minutes)
What would you most want people to understand about this “journey” and our community?
There are a lot of misunderstandings and false assumptions about this kind of life journey, about efforts to diminish same-sex attractions, and about Brothers on a Road Less Traveled. Eleven men share candidly what they would most want people to understand. (8:04 minutes)