We are an international, interfaith, peer-support fellowship primarily of men from homosexual or bisexual backgrounds who — for our own, deeply personal reasons — typically do not accept or identify with the label “gay” and prefer instead to address our underlying issues and embrace our authentic masculinity.
That doesn’t mean we are in denial or are suppressing our supposedly “true selves.” Quite the opposite.
In fact, we are on a journey to discover and address the underlying environmental and relational issues that may have led us to feel unwanted and incongruous same-sex attractions in the first place.
The core of this journey we call “M.A.N.S. Work.” The acronym stands for Masculinity, Authenticity, Needs Fulfillment and Surrender — four broad, overlapping areas of inner healing and personal growth that can potentially bring any man from any walk of life closer to wholeness and peace.
We pursue courageous personal-growth work and a personal spiritual and emotional journey in a supportive community of like-minded brothers.
And as a result:
- SSA. Many of us have seen a shift in the nature of our sexuality over time, or in how we experience it, including sometimes a decrease in the intensity of our same-sex attractions.
- Brotherhood. We’ve experienced an increased sense of belonging and brotherhood among men from all walks of life.
- Self-Esteem. Our self-esteem has improved and feelings of shame have diminished or disappeared.
- Sexual Behaviors. Those of us who have struggled with self-destructive and out-of-control sexual behaviors have often reduced or even eliminated those behaviors altogether.
- Single and Celibate. Many of us have found a whole new level of peace and fulfilment as we have embraced living a single and celibate lifestyle as a higher calling consistent with our faith, values and morals.
- Marriage and Opposite-Sex Attractions. Many of us have found renewed commitment to and love for wives and family. Others have found new or increased romantic and sexual interests in the opposite sex.
- Faith. Many of us have found a renewed sense of peace with God, an increase in faith, and a far greater sense of his unconditional love for us.
- Peace. But more important than all of this, we are finding peace — and peace in a way that aligns our identity, feelings and behaviors with our deeply held beliefs, faith, values, morals and life goals.
Two Roads Diverged — Each Man’s Free Choice
Yes, we represent a significant alternative to gay-affirming identities and lifestyles. That is our choice. It is our right to pursue happiness as we see fit, especially when it involves something as personal as our sexuality, our faith, our emotions and our relationships.
Yet we respect the right of others to pursue different paths to peace. We believe in civil discourse and in mutual respect, even — and especially — when we disagree.