Wife support group for SSA

A Woman Who Loves

April 24 to 26, 2020, South of Nashville, Tennessee

A Woman Who Loves: Healing Loss, Opening Hearts (formerly “A Wife’s Healing Journey”) is our experiential-healing and personal-growth retreat primarily for women who are working through hurt, betrayal, fear, anger, and grief related to issues with the men in their lives.

A Woman Who Loves is also intended for women who simply want to better understand themselves and those they love — or women who want to open their hearts to loving again.

The program is led by women and married couples who have survived an affair…or a husbands’ struggles with same-sex attractions, porn or sex addictions, or other difficult issues.

These staff members have been there — and made it through to the other side: to stronger, healthier lives, individually and/or as couples.

At “A Woman Who Loves,” you’ll have the opportunity to:

  • Be surrounded — perhaps for the first time in your life — by women who really “get” you, because they are on a very similar journey themselves.

  • Discover how to recognize your own core emotions (anger, fear, sadness and joy) and what they can teach you.

  • Feel the freedom to honor and release your fear and anger in healthy ways.

  • Experience the freedom to work through your own personal grief, to release your shame, and to set healthy boundaries.

  • Discover how to stay strong in spite of what life may send you.

  • And much more.

This weekend is for women who are committed to their own personal growth — and who are ready to experience breakthrough emotional shifts and insights, regardless of some of the choices the men or others in their lives may have made.

What to Expect

Throughout the weekend you will learn how to recognize your own core emotions (anger, fear, sadness and joy) and what they can teach you. You will learn how to recognize your anger and release it in healthy ways. You will learn how to work through your own personal grief, how to release your shame, how to set healthy boundaries and how to stay strong in spite of what life may send you.

A Woman Who Loves is a self-discovery and inner-healing weekend. The staff-volunteers co-create a safe structure for you to explore your own work and your own journey, wherever that may lead.

The program begins on Friday afternoon and continues until Sunday afternoon — a total of about 20 program hours of experiential processes, teachings, break-out groups, sharing, journaling and meditation. It’s residential, meaning all participants and staff-volunteers stay onsite at the retreat center for the full weekend experience. They sleep in temperature-controlled group rooms and eat together in a dining hall. Six healthy meals are served — from dinner Friday through lunch Sunday.

(See our Q&A for more.)

Formerly “A Wife’s Healing Journey”

This powerful program was created in 2009 under the name “A Wife’s Healing Journey.” It was originally designed as a complement to an experiential-healing men’s retreat, Journey Into Manhood, for men who experience unwanted or incongruous same-sex attractions (SSA) but don’t want to live a gay life.

But we have found, over the years, that this work is just as healing and empowering for other women who have attended in order to deal with issues not directly related to husbands or to SSA.

By changing the name, we are opening up this healing, empowering work to a broader cross-section of women — including not just wives but girlfriends, fiancées, ex-wives, widows, daughters, sisters, mothers and friends.

And it’s not just about healing loss. It’s also about opening hearts to love again, or to love more deeply. It’s about empowering growth. And accessing joy.

See our press release about the new name.

About the Co-Creators

The program was co-created by Mary Jane Morgan, a wife of a man who formerly struggled with SSA, and Rich Wyler, a man from an SSA past who is the founder of Brothers on a Road Less Traveled and co-creator of its life-changing Journey Into Manhood program.

About the Staff-Volunteers

A Woman Who Loves is led and facilitated by non-professional peer mentors who have relevant life experience and skills. They are women and men whose marriages have survived and even (ultimately) thrived as the husband addressed the root causes of his issues, the wife confronted her own anger, fear, betrayal, sadness or shame, and the couple, together, worked towards a more rewarding and intimate relationship as husband and wife.

The leaders and volunteers are not professional counselors or therapists (or if they do happen to work in that professional capacity in their regular everyday lives, they are not serving as counselors or therapists during the retreat). There are usually about 10 to 15 staff-volunteers — mostly married couples (although some volunteers staff the event without their spouse present).

About the Participants

Past participants have ranged in age from 23 to their 60s. Some have been married for decades already; others, for just a few months. Others were single. Some attended at a time when they were separated, divorced or even engaged to marry an SSA man who has encouraged her to attend so that she can better understand his journey and be more equipped to handle tough issues together, as a couple.

Many participants attend at a crisis point in their marriages, when they are preparing to make life-changing decisions. Others are generally happy in their marriages, and are really attending more for their own personal-growth and also to be better equipped to understand and support their husbands’ journeys.

Most but not all participants are married to men with SSA. Sometimes their husbands have been serial adulterers or sex addicts. Other husbands who experience SSA have never acted on their same-sex attractions at all, but they may still experience temptations, distress or internal conflict over their attractions.

The number of participants has ranged from as few as seven to as many as 25, depending on the event.

Fees and Locations

The regular registration fee is $590, which covers the full program (about 20 hours), two nights’ stay at the retreat center, six meals, and a post-weekend, follow-up teleconference session to further integrate your experience.

To go to the registration and payment page, click here.

Payment plans and partial sponsorships are available for those who are committed to their personal growth but lack the resources to pay the full fee right now. Click here to learn more. Clear here to register and apply for financial assistance.

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